“When “The Blues” Become Depression” -Depression check-list

Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick but desire fulfilled is a tree of life.”

“There a light at the end of the tunnel of depression”

We all have felt the blues from time to time when we feel blah or now the new term that’s used is, “meh.”  However, there is a big difference between feeling blue and suffering from depression.

Feeling blue may last for a week or two.  A blue feeling doesn’t interfere with our daily lives and leave us feeling as if we can’t function simple tasks or leave us feeling like we want to isolate away from our family and friends.

Depression can be very debilitating and may require medication in addition to psycho-therapy.

The blues will lift after a little while……….but depression……….depression defers hope, depression comes with a negative voice that wants to tell the person suffering that their desires will not be fulfilled and that their tree of life is void of any life sustaining fruit.

…….Depression is a liar……..

If you are concerned about a friend or family member I’ve provided some warning signs to look for regarding telling the blues from depression.

Signs of Depression

Loss of interest in activities that you once enjoyed

Irritability and frustration

Difficulty concentration or making decisions

Isolating from family and friends

Excessive sleeping or trouble sleeping

Inability to control emotions

Uncontrollable crying

Feeling hopeless

Symptoms of anxiety

These are a few symptoms that may be present for you or a loved one regarding depression.  Take depression seriously!  It is an illness that requires treatment.  If you think you or a loved one is suffering from depression:

-Gently share your concerns with your loved one.  Along with depression comes feelings of guilt and shame so be gentle and loving.

-Offer to help them find a qualified therapist who can assess and diagnose clinical depression.

-Be supportive and remember that depression is an illness.  It is not a condition that should be ignored.

“There is light at the end of the tunnel of depression”

His Daughter,

Melanie

Understanding Emotional Default Settings

The business dictionary defines a default setting as:
-controls of a computer hardware as pre-set by it’s manufacturer.
-some types of default settings may be altered or customized by the user.

I define emotional default settings as:
-emotional thought processes of the mind that become pre-set over time in reaction or response to our history of life experiences.
-For example:
If we experienced abuse of any kind in our childhood we may default to responding to life stressors with fear or anxiety or maybe anger.
Our default settings alter our belief system often resulting in…..
….distorted automatic thoughts….
These are negative thoughts that are….
…customized by the user….
which would be ourselves.
Distorted automatic thoughts tell us lies about ourselves and our circumstances.
With the help of a therapist you can learn to identify what these thoughts are and begin to re-set your emotional default settings.

The good news is that there….
….IS HOPE….

Philippians 4:8 states:
Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies. (‭Philippians‬ ‭4‬:‭8-9‬ MSG)

Default settings can be changed!
We do have a choice!

I had to learn to re-set my own emotional default settings. I grew up in a home where unpredictable emotions were displayed and unconditional love was not offered.
I saw the world in black and white.
My emotional default settings were:
-perfectionism
-anxiety
-fear
-unworthiness
I had no choice but to re-program or I would have succumbed to self-destruction. I sometimes want to default back to old ways of thinking…..
….but with God’s help I recognize when I am tempted to respond in fear to a life stressor and ask for God’s help.
I now walk in harmony with God and meditate on things true about myself,
…the best, not the worst about myself…..you can to.
It’s time to customize your emotional default settings. It will be worth it.

His Daughter,
Melanie